“When we consistently suppress and distrust our intuitive knowingness, looking instead for authority,
validation, and approval from others, we give our personal power away.”
~ Shakti Gawain
There’s nothing much wrong with wanting to please others… except when you end up compromising yourself in the process.
Many girls are brought up to believe that they should conform to everyone else’s wishes, that they should be well-behaved and always keep the peace. They are taught to be “biddable”, to be the peace-maker, and to remain in the background ready to help others without creating any waves of their own.
Some people unhappily live out their whole lives being desperate for approval.
Does any of the following ring true for you?
• You are terrified that people won’t like you
• Meeting new people is scary because you think they’re judging you
• You can never be yourself, because you don’t really know how
• You behave differently around different people
• You never speak your own mind
• You secretly despise yourself for being so weak
If you are a chronic approval-seeker you need to make some changes for the sake of your health and well-being.
• You are open to being manipulated and even abused by others
• You are not living your life to the fullest, and you’re denying yourself the right to be real
• Your fear is holding you back from a lot of opportunities
Here are some ideas you can start working on right away:
You have no control over what other people think. Being “nice” all the time usually won’t make much of an impression on someone. In fact if you never have any opinions of your own you probably won’t make much of an impression at all, because you have no personality.
Offer your own opinions from time to time. You don’t need to become over-opinionated, but try speaking your mind from time to time. You will be surprised to find that no-one will be offended or upset – as long as you’re not deliberately upsetting them, of course.
Practice pleasing yourself. Do your own thing from time to time – something that you want to do. And the heck with what other people might “think”! If it’s not hurting them in any way, it’s none of their concern.
It’s not all about you. If someone has a disapproving look on their face, it’s probably because they’re fretting over their own problems, and it likely has nothing to do with you! Most people are really self-absorbed.
All that being said, there are some awful people in the world who use disapproval as a weapon. They will intimidate, bully and control you if you let them. So don’t let them. Have no further contact with this person, or call them out on it. Ask them what their problem is. In my experience, the person will usually back down really fast.
If you or a beloved friend or family member is caught in this self-diminishing cycle and haven’t been able to break free on your own, hypnotherapy works wonders.
You have two wonderful options available.
1. You can purchase a hypnosis mp3 recording on how to stop being addicted to people pleasing
2. You can call me and we can chat about your specific issue and how hypnotherapy can change your life.