“Relationships survive on trust, and if that is broken at any point, it's pretty much the end of the relationship. Besides, inability to communicate leads to problems."
– Yuvraj Singh
Like most things in life, a romantic relationship will have its ups and downs. Sometimes you'll feel like you and your partner were meant for each other, and that nothing can ever separate you. Other times you may feel less enthusiastic, even experiencing bouts of resentment towards your partner for something he or she did. Feelings such as this are perfectly normal, but some relationships can go beyond these feelings, creating a toxic environment for everyone involved.
#1) You are Together for 'Convenience'
Unfortunately, many couples stay together for convenience instead of actual love. Maybe they don't want to deal with splitting their belongings, or perhaps they can't afford to live on their own. Regardless, staying together for sheer convenience is a recipe for disaster, as it lacks the key characteristics of a healthy relationship.
#2) Your Partner is Passive Aggressive
Another tall-tale sign of a toxic relationship is passive aggressiveness. Instead of coming right out and saying a negative thought, your partner may drop not-so-subtle hints, such as glare or shoulder shrug. Over time, this behavior will become commonplace, as your partner assumes that it's okay to be passive aggressive towards you. According to an article published by the online dating website eHarmony, passive aggressive relationships are both unstable and unhealthy.
#3) Your Partner Holds the Relationship Hostage
What exactly does it mean to "hold the relationship hostage?" It means just that: your partner may threaten to leave you unless you do what he or she says. In some cases, the threat is direct, but in other cases it's more discreet, such as "I can't be with someone who doesn't like my friends." You should never be given an ultimatum that involves your relationship, as it breaks down the core trust between you and your partner.
#4) You Prefer to be Alone
If you prefer to be alone instead of with your partner, there's a good chance you are in a toxic relationship. Being in a relationship should be enjoyable, with a partner whom you like and care about. But toxic relationships are far from enjoyable, with one or both partners choosing to spend extra time at work just to avoid the other.
#5) Your Partner is Jealous
Jealousy is among the most common reasons why couples break up. And given today's ever-connected society involving social media, texting, etc., it's become an even greater problem in relationships. People who are jealous of their partners may constantly check their smartphone for messages, going behind their back to see what they are doing.
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